“Good things come to those who wait.”
The above line on patience is well known. Yet, it remains a challenge to see people imbibe it in their own lives.
The younger generations seem to have an excessive difficulty in following it, yet we are the ones who need it more than our boomer parents.
“Sabr” is an Arabic word translating literally to ‘patience’ which is much used by the desi parents to their kids.
I can go on to talk about the importance of sabr in the religious texts and traditional beliefs of the society but who’s kidding? You’re not gonna read that! So, I’ll talk about us.
We have been spoilled with the world at our tips. We all own atleast one device with internet connection and we often spend most of our hours engaging with it, and let’s face it– we don’t like to wait to get anything done.
Yet, we are the generation who has been affected by two recessions– the 2008, and the 2020. Agreed that some have made big in these times, for the majority of us, it has been a setback.
The two “once in a lifetime” recessions meant that a lot of us had to take another year off from taking that leap to work on our plans, another layoff, another year to wait for the university, another year before that grand marriage, another year to wait for that dream overseas vacation.
Sabr should be more important to us than to any of the older generations. It’s important to let ourselves take a breath of hope and let the things be as they are. Let the worries flow as we go through.
An old friend once said something I’ll quote here:
“Asif, stop being so hard on yourself. You can only control what you can.”
And really. Tell me, can we control the times we go through? We can’t, right? So why do we stress ourselves so much– physically and mentally to turn it around in our favour?
Sometimes, it’s hard to, but we need to understand that we can only control little that is in our hands. And when things aren’t, we must just try to stick through with our daily routine towards the bigger goal and just go through the time.
And about the #fomo, you know what? 5,10,15 years down the line, it won’t matter. It’s important to work towards our goals– buying that house, or that dream car, or getting your start-up established. But remember the quote I opened this blog with:
“good things come to those who wait.”
And honestly man, if it doesn’t make you wait a bit more, is it really worth it?